It’s up to us to change and shift into a culture that is more accepting for all of us. As I have mentioned before, there are some of us who have had difficult relationships. I think, now, on hindsight, most of us realize the term “relationship” can be with just about anything. I’m trying to bring our attention to all of our relationships with alcohol. It’s easy, it’s affected my life, but not in the way you would suspect. I’ve watched on the sidelines as alcohol destroyed those that I love and on down the line to 1937. That’s a long time for a family to carry a burden such as that. I’m pretty sure that my ancestors have been carrying this burden for a long time. I’m just choosing to not continue it.
Please don’t think for one second that I’m a teetotaler, even though there is nothing wrong with me if I was. That’s the point to this conversation. The place I came from determined something “is wrong with you” if you decide you don’t want to drink. I won’t even just assign it to my family, it’s been society as a whole. I don’t intend to come across as judgmental, I’m trying to explain my observations. We are evolving. Part of the evolving means we have to be conscious of our prior shortcomings because we are aware of them now. Once you recognize and lay eyes on the elephant in the room, you can’t, with good faith, ignore it. It doesn’t make it go away.
In changing these dialogues surrounding bad relationships with alcohol, why not host a dinner party, in any sort of way that makes sense to you. I know what you are going to say, “But, the legalities…” Trust me when I say, I’m pretty sure there are plenty of real estate legal experts out there that can help you. Back to the dinner party, the most important thing to do is make it inclusive. We all know inclusivity makes the world go ’round. Make this a friendly event with the soul purpose of challenging yourself to offerings that are friendly for our sober friends. It’s what they miss the most. Being included. Try a Hemp roll, much like I did from Gerhart Farm. (It’s such a divine taste that would go well with a rich CBD type beverage, I would think, or a fantastic chocolate selection).
The point of it all is, let’s be more inclusive for all of our friends. We have compartmentalized ourselves too much. You may find that what you thought was their greatest weakness has become their greatest strength. Our friends and loved ones in recovery should be supported in healthy ways. What sort of ways can you help your friends in recovery?
I welcome your feedback. What sort of ways can your friends and loved ones help support you in a tough time? Was there a time that someone offered you a helping hand and it changed your life?